Violence in marriage and relationships

I read the news of a man that killed and butchered his wife in Lagos, and was so shocked.

The report said that the man appeared mentally deranged, and I'm guessing he became unhinged while in a fracas with the wife. This is an issue we hear a lot of hear in America, where sociopaths and psychopaths kidnap, murder and dismember even babies and children. While it used not to be common in Nigeria, the more western the naija society becomes, the more prevalent such mental health issues may become.

Bad things happen in all relationships. The man could have been her father, brother, friend, boyfriend, colleague, etc. Women are generally - in naija as well as other countries - physically weaker, and therefore prone to be the victims of attacks or abuse, domestic or otherwise. We all heard of a senator that was slapped within the halls of the Nigerian national assembly. We should make ourselves strong, physically and mentally, so as to recognize and get out of potentially dangerous situations, or defend ourselves to the best of our ability.

This is about health and safety. Children are most times even more vulnerable than women. The report did not say anything about the daughter, and I hope she's OK.

My thoughts on Domestic Violence for both married women and those in a r/ship) is:

1. Get out - Leave the house and take the children

2. Get therapy/help - Report the man to both of your families, your pastor/imam, etc

3. If necessary, Stay out. Divorce is an option - Remember your life may be on the line.

May the woman's soul rest in peace.