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Comment by samuel oniyide on July 9, 2011 at 1:37pm

ISSUE 1........TOPIC 1: from the stable of: Samuel T Oniyide

 

"APPRECIATION IN RELATIONSHIP"

It is a good thing to appreciate one's partner regardless ur level of relationship. Appreciation is like a grease applied to a

frictional joint. The two objects meet having something in common, but hindered by the third party--friction. Grease enhances their free movements,correlations, agreements and functions; so it is with 'Appreciation in Relationship'.

"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?...(Amos 3:3)

 

When last did you say "thank you" to her? Vice versa.

When last did you appreciate her for the meal even if you were the one that defrayed for it? When last did you appreciate her for the cleaning even if you paid for the laundry and the house tidiness or she must do it because it is her

duty? When last did you appreciate her for loving you? Vice versa, even if Love is a dual practice. when last did you enter the kitchen holding her from behind and kissing her neck, saying with a sensational voice: "weldone dear, o what a

delicious meal wld it be!?" When last did you after saying: "thank you to Jesus"-"dear, thanks for the cooking of this

wonderful dish again" after the meal--Before you correct the cooking mistake as it occurs sometimes, foremost appreciate her for the fact that she did cook it. When last did you say: "wow! you look great yesterday, today, am speechless, what? hmmmmn! cos you look greater today! oooops.

 

That i spoke softly to a female banker in the recent time. she was so happy for hearing that. "you are shining" I could observe the glo on her face. she attended to me so nicely. Could you believe that today when i went to retify a

transaction issue, she attended to me like a VVIP. She stopped what she was doing instantly, took the register to check my details vividly one after the other while a muted queue stood all along behind me through the painstaking process.

She made sure she found out my transaction details as required and helped processed it-ooops that was a preferential treatment though it is her job, but we shouldnt think of it as such. What yesterday appreciation will do today and

tomorrow might not be revealed until you do it. Appreciate the gateman for opening the door for you, saluting you even we all know that they are been paid for that from our patronage. The little words of appreciation go a long way in bringing unexpected favour to you.

In that same bank, a cleaner saw me waiting for pen, she came up to me to inquire if i needed one, yes i said without hesitation. "How did this lady get to sensitize what am passing through, though she is busy sweeping"...i soliloquized silently; thereafter, i went to appreciate her, and she was so glad i did. A day before yesterday, when i did more appreciated her, the rest cleaners couldnt but became my friends. This morning, i couldnt but greet them all as they

almost greeted me before i did. I said to myself, i now have more friends in this bank...lol. The cleaners are also people like us.....let's do to them as we do to our dearly customers and co-workers. Many homes have scattered and shattered today because of the absense of appreciation. I have seen some women who would begin to blash their husband for buying very costly-as they assume, things home from the market. The men would now decide that, "next time i would not buy it at all, you have to get to the market yourself." Though it might be costly truely, but presentation of

thoughts and opinion matter a whole lot. If you want to correct a wrong deed, dont condemn it but appreciate the little effort first, then followed by the advisory comments in a pleasant manner. Also, in such a way that, nobody is above

mistake. If you dear put it as though you yourself could not do likewise, you are uproaring the issue.

 

I have watched a life scenario of how some women would just with non-challant manner welcome their husbands, collect the bag, opens it and begin to blab at the man over the costly or low-grade goods bought home, vice versa. If you can stop your relationship style now, and include appreciation, you would see the interesting side of relationship!

Help other people get better by appreciation them either they are of close relativity to you or not. Anything worth appreciating is to be appreciated well! The best banker of the month in a particular First Bank really marvelled me by

her attitude to customers thus that i picked a pen and dropped some good comments about her in their Comment Box. The manager later gave her more kudos. When we met on the road, i introduced myself to her of what i did. She was so happy and explained how the bank celebrated her for my comments.

 

I must disclose to so many people are dieing out of little or no appreciation. Your Pastor, Song Ministers, Church Cleaners, Sanctuary Keepers, Instrumentalists, Missionaries-most especially are all encouraging themselves. In the midst of that some members will go ahead instead of keeping mute but rather foist discouraging words on them.

So many ladies are just surviving their relationship not living it. So many ladies are just enduring their relationship not enjoying it. All of these boil out of little or no appreciation. So many men are just enduring-trying to be men, whereas some are very radical that they have changed their style.

 

Little or no appreciation has made so many men to change from being gentle men to being radical-they assume they have become more sensible, taught, wiser. Little or no appreciation is one of the reasons so many guys double date-vice versa. Little or no appreciation is one of the reasons why so many ladies can't remain their trust in any guy again. "Men can't be trusted" has been their synopsis. "All women are thesame" has become the masculine insunuation. This may interest the married: "Thanks for the sex we had together" even if you both give and take of it.

 

To conclude,

==Appreciate your partner for the time you spend together,

==Appreciate your partner for the money he/she spends on you,

==Appreciate your partner for the credit as little as it may be, to your phone...A guy, my used to be co-worker was lamenting one day, that: "you see, that is how women behave, i sent her credit, she can't even call or flash to appreciate me. And she knew how she disturbed me before i sent it, now she just kept mute." If i may ask, is that how all women do? one person's attitude sometimes connotes all. Let's learn from others as well,

==Appreciate your partner for satisfying your emotions. A lady told me on Tuesday-day before yesterday Evening that: "men are more logical but ladies are more emotional" i said to myself, 'what an eye-opener'

==Appreciate your partner for being there for you, when needed or not,

==Appreciate your partner for being the most, handsome, most beautiful in the world. No, not flatter, but be sincere. If not the most handsome or Most Beautiful, why should it be the one you are engaged with, i mean being the one that is in your life,

==You can do appreciate with gift.

 

COMING UP NEXT WEEK.......

DATE WILL BE POSTED LATER.....

ON ISSUE 1, TOPIC 2, "THE NEGATIVITY AND THE POSITIVITY OF APPRECIATION IN RELATIONSHIP

 

Samuel T Oniyide

+2348094374134

sampamonistc@groups.facebook.com

Comment by jessy love on May 13, 2010 at 11:59am

What Is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is the collection of beliefs or feelings we have about ourselves, our "self-perceptions." How we define ourselves influences our motivations, attitudes, and behaviors and affects our emotional adjustment.

Patterns of self-esteem start very early in life. For example, a toddler who reaches a milestone experiences a sense of accomplishment that bolsters self-esteem. Learning to roll over after dozens of unsuccessful attempts teaches a baby a "can-do" attitude.

The concept of success following persistence starts early. As kids try, fail, try again, fail again, and then finally succeed, they develop ideas about their own capabilities. At the same time, they're creating a self-concept based on interactions with other people. This is why parental involvement is key to helping kids form accurate, healthy self-perceptions.

Self-esteem also can be defined as feelings of capability combined with feelings of being loved. A child who is happy with an achievement but does not feel loved may eventually experience low self-esteem. Likewise, a child who feels loved but is hesitant about his or her own abilities can also end up with low self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem comes when the right balance is reached.

Comment by Chika Ilonwa on May 10, 2010 at 4:44pm

Hi Jessy, long time no see?

Comment by jessy love on February 26, 2010 at 10:54am

To interact with friends Beside, you can post a discussion on this group that will benefit people & by the time everyone will bring their suggestions,you see people gaining from it. Hope i answered your question?

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what is the theme of this group

Comment by samuel oniyide on February 12, 2010 at 8:46pm

nice joining

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hi jessy hw are u
doing this new year, i wish u all the best .

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Comment by jessy love on December 8, 2009 at 2:08pm

Why Are Some Relationships So Difficult?


Ever heard about how it's hard for someone to love you when you don't love yourself? It's a big relationship roadblock when one or both people struggle with self-esteem problems. Your girlfriend or boyfriend isn't there to make you feel good about yourself if you can't do that on your own. Focus on being happy with yourself, and don't take on the responsibility of worrying about someone else's happiness.

What if you feel that your girlfriend or boyfriend needs too much from you? If the relationship feels like a burden or a drag instead of a joy, it might be time to think about whether it's a healthy match for you. Someone who's not happy or secure may have trouble being a healthy relationship partner.

Also, intense relationships can be hard for some teenagers. Some are so focused on their own developing feelings and responsibilities that they don't have the emotional energy it takes to respond to someone else's feelings and needs in a close relationship. Don't worry if you're just not ready yet. You will be, and you can take all the time you need.

Ever notice that some teen relationships don't last very long? It's no wonder — you're still growing and changing every day, and it can be tough to put two people together whose identities are both still in the process of forming. You two might seem perfect for each other at first, but that can change. If you try to hold on to the relationship anyway, there's a good chance it will turn sour. Better to part as friends than to stay in something that you've outgrown or that no longer feels right for one or both of you. And before you go looking for amour from that hottie from French class, respect your current beau by breaking things off before you make your move.

Relationships can be one of the best — and most challenging — parts of your world. They can be full of fun, romance, excitement, intense feelings, and occasional heartache, too. Whether you're single or in a relationship, remember that it's good to be choosy about who you get close to. If you're still waiting, take your time and get to know plenty of people.

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